Deja vu all over again

I just relived a very vivid childhood moment, but this time I was on the other end.

On the way home from dinner at my mom’s tonight, we were all talking about family. Robbie just turned 4, so of course his thoughts have turned to when he is going to be an adult. He asked where he was going to live, what he would do without his brothers, and where daddy and I would be.

I absolutely remember having this same conversation with my mom. I was worried that when I grew up I would have to live by myself. Mom told me that when I grew up I would probably want to move out, but I could still live with her if I wanted to. Even at the time I kind of knew it was silly, but it made me feel SO much better.

I was able to concede that I might get married, but I made my mom promise that he and I could still live with her. To her great credit, she told me that would be fine and even kept a straight face doing it.

Then tonight I have the same thing happen with my kids. Even Mike said he wanted to live with us forever! Mr. Independent! So we all agreed that all 5 of us would always live together in the same house.

Then Mike said to Robbie “Hey, when we’re grown-ups we can have whatever we want for snack!”


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10 responses to “Deja vu all over again”

  1. Damselfly Avatar

    Long-range planning. I like it. So smart!

  2. Robin Avatar

    Which is really the important part of being a grown-up, you know, getting to choose what you have for snack.

  3. Mel Avatar

    I have to agree–the snack is pretty important.

    My niece went through this recently with my sister. My sister now has a housemate for life too.

  4. andria Avatar

    That is so weird because we were at a wedding last night and oldest child brings up the same subject and was adament that he live with me forever and I had to agree to keep him from crying in the midst of the ring exchange. I tried to explain to him that he would meet a girl and want to be married one day too and he insisted that would never happen. I was going to post about the same thing, but now I feel like a copy cat.

  5. Blogarita Avatar

    You do know, don’t you, that although they get to choose their snack, you’ll still have to make it for them.

  6. Plain Jane Mom Avatar

    Damselfly — a guy’s gotta plan ahead!

    Robin — yeah, he’s got his priorities in the right place.

    Mel — I am amazed this is such a common conversation, but learning this is one thing I love about the internet!

    andria — Write away! We all have our own spin!

    Blogarita — yeah, no kidding. I mumbled something about ‘learning what “rent” means’ too!

  7. Maria P. Avatar

    I have this conversation with my 5 yr old every so often. He is adament that he does not want to leave me. He wants to live with us forever. Never have his own kids (just two dogs and a cat) and work on cars when he is grown.

    I just go along with it because I know he’ll change his mind one day. Sigh.

  8. Plain Jane Mom Avatar

    OK, but admit it — it would be great to have a kid who could fix your cars!

  9. Melissa Avatar

    Isn’t it too bad that having whatever you want for a snack as a grown up is such a mixed blessing?

  10. Plain Jane Mom Avatar

    Yeah, it seemed like a cool thing as a kid, but then comes the responsibility…

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