Comments on: I hate my mother in law http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/ My life in Palo Alto, California. Wed, 01 Sep 2010 14:33:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Letter Writer http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-48461 Letter Writer Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:45:42 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-48461 I have a MIL that is the epitome of all that is an awful MIL. I feel your pain. I am not a hating person, it's just not part of my nature. I am very close to hating this woman. I have actually looked up ways to kill her without getting caught. However, I am like you, the perfect, ever-pleasing, DIL who writes letters, sends pictures, bakes pies for get togethers... so killing her wont happen. But you can bet I daydream about it! I have a MIL that is the epitome of all that is an awful MIL. I feel your pain. I am not a hating person, it’s just not part of my nature. I am very close to hating this woman. I have actually looked up ways to kill her without getting caught. However, I am like you, the perfect, ever-pleasing, DIL who writes letters, sends pictures, bakes pies for get togethers… so killing her wont happen. But you can bet I daydream about it!

]]> By: Grace http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45852 Grace Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:02:00 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45852 oh, Iforgot. If you are engaged or thinking about and the mother in law is treating you like crap. RUN ! run as fast as you can. I always told myself she would change with time, but she has gotten worst. oh, Iforgot. If you are engaged or thinking about and the mother in law is treating you like crap. RUN ! run as fast as you can. I always told myself she would change with time, but she has gotten worst.

]]> By: Grace http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45851 Grace Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:47:22 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45851 I totally understand what you feel. My mother in law hates me because I am foreign. She is a huge racist and hates everyone who is the slightest bit different from her. She is so ignorant. She assumes I am stupid and should just lay down and take her crap. I love my husband but I can not allow someone to treat me this way anymore. She is not human and has no soul. Sometimes I think she is trying to give me a heart attack from all the stress she puts on me and my marriage. I have hundred of stories of her manipulation and complete disregard for anyone's feelings but her own. Love... love is blind. I totally understand what you feel. My mother in law hates me because I am foreign. She is a huge racist and hates everyone who is the slightest bit different from her. She is so ignorant. She assumes I am stupid and should just lay down and take her crap. I love my husband but I can not allow someone to treat me this way anymore. She is not human and has no soul. Sometimes I think she is trying to give me a heart attack from all the stress she puts on me and my marriage. I have hundred of stories of her manipulation and complete disregard for anyone’s feelings but her own. Love… love is blind.

]]> By: Khush http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45850 Khush Mon, 25 Jan 2010 10:58:39 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45850 In your post you have said that we should ignore our inlaws & try to live happily with our husband & children but how can u ignore a person who is 24/7 in front of your eyes & interfering all the time in your private matters, who is all the time ready to brain wash your husband My monster in law is such a bitch that i seriously pray to god every single day not to make me like her when my son gets married. My parents have always taught us not say or wish anything bad for anybody even for your worst enemy but today i just cannot do that & really feel she should die because only after that i will my peace of mind & will even get my husband back In your post you have said that we should ignore our inlaws & try to live happily with our husband & children but how can u ignore a person who is 24/7 in front of your eyes & interfering all the time in your private matters, who is all the time ready to brain wash your husband

My monster in law is such a bitch that i seriously pray to god every single day not to make me like her when my son gets married. My parents have always taught us not say or wish anything bad for anybody even for your worst enemy but today i just cannot do that & really feel she should die because only after that i will my peace of mind & will even get my husband back

]]> By: Khush http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45849 Khush Mon, 25 Jan 2010 10:34:16 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45849 hey i agree with you just me as even i wish for the same thing & thats i wish i could just like my mother in law dnt even feel to call her mother as i feel it will be an insult to other mothers. I seriously feel that these MIL should live only till they are 50 otherwise they become a bloody pain in ass. hey i agree with you just me as even i wish for the same thing & thats i wish i could just like my mother in law dnt even feel to call her mother as i feel it will be an insult to other mothers. I seriously feel that these MIL should live only till they are 50 otherwise they become a bloody pain in ass.

]]> By: Kris http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45848 Kris Sat, 23 Jan 2010 13:50:05 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45848 We have a bad family situation on my side (my mom, Dad and brother) and Dh's (His Mom, sisters, brother, sil, and his sisters children.) I read all the posts and can relate to so many of the stories. I am grateful for everyday that passes that we don't see any of the people mentioned above. I actually feel sorry for people who are insensitive to others with bad family situations. It is unrealistic to point fingers and say, "It must be you, try harder." Perhaps the bright side of having monster in laws and being the black sheep of your own so called birth family is that is makes you more compassionate and let judgemental of others. We have a bad family situation on my side (my mom, Dad and brother) and Dh’s (His Mom, sisters, brother, sil, and his sisters children.) I read all the posts and can relate to so many of the stories. I am grateful for everyday that passes that we don’t see any of the people mentioned above. I actually feel sorry for people who are insensitive to others with bad family situations. It is unrealistic to point fingers and say, “It must be you, try harder.” Perhaps the bright side of having monster in laws and being the black sheep of your own so called birth family is that is makes you more compassionate and let judgemental of others.

]]> By: Tracey28 http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45847 Tracey28 Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:23:52 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45847 Hi there. I can totally relate to your anger and pain, I nearly lost my marriage over my MIL- so I told my husband i want nothing to do with her anyloner, if he didn't like it then i am out here gone, i am moving back to Europe so I wouldn't ever see or be near her again, she made life feel like not living any longer, I reckon the man has to stand up to his mother and tell her where to stick it to. I am mentaly scared because of her. She was a dusgusting pig, who didn't bath for weeks, even when i am writing this message, my blood boils. I lived with her for over year, I asked my self now why? well they say love makes you do stupid things. I told my husband exactly how i felt, knowing that i might loose him, but i had to do it. just don't keep your feelings eat you up and be happy even if it means loosing your husband, because no one should go throu or feel like that because of another human begin. Life is to short to live in situation like that. my mother lost her 35 yr marriage because of her in-laws, I reckon it was going to happen to me. Hi there.

I can totally relate to your anger and pain, I nearly lost my marriage over my MIL- so I told my husband i want nothing to do with her anyloner, if he didn’t like it then i am out here gone, i am moving back to Europe so I wouldn’t ever see or be near her again, she made life feel like not living any longer, I reckon the man has to stand up to his mother and tell her where to stick it to. I am mentaly scared because of her. She was a dusgusting pig, who didn’t bath for weeks, even when i am writing this message, my blood boils. I lived with her for over year, I asked my self now why? well they say love makes you do stupid things. I told my husband exactly how i felt, knowing that i might loose him, but i had to do it.

just don’t keep your feelings eat you up and be happy even if it means loosing your husband, because no one should go throu or feel like that because of another human begin. Life is to short to live in situation like that.

my mother lost her 35 yr marriage because of her in-laws, I reckon it was going to happen to me.

]]> By: Joanne http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45846 Joanne Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:01:47 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45846 If you want to save your marriage you need to stand up to your mother and set firm boundries. My Fiancee and l split up because of his mother, he was not able to stand up to her and she just ate away at our relationship. We loved each other and got on so well but she was poision in our lifes. You are a grown man and l doubt your mother sees you that way, but your wife needs you to be a man and do whatever you need to do to save your marriage before it's to late. Your first loyalty should be to your wife now( that's what the vows you took were about after all) Don't lose your wife because you are too scared to put your mother in her place, your wife will be in your life long after your mother has gone. Hope you can find the courage to do the right thing. If you want to save your marriage you need to stand up to your mother and set firm boundries. My Fiancee and l split up because of his mother, he was not able to stand up to her and she just ate away at our relationship. We loved each other and got on so well but she was poision in our lifes. You are a grown man and l doubt your mother sees you that way, but your wife needs you to be a man and do whatever you need to do to save your marriage before it’s to late. Your first loyalty should be to your wife now( that’s what the vows you took were about after all) Don’t lose your wife because you are too scared to put your mother in her place, your wife will be in your life long after your mother has gone.

Hope you can find the courage to do the right thing.

]]> By: ikechi igochi nwofor http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45845 ikechi igochi nwofor Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:44:08 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45845 my mother has ruined my marriage my mother has ruined my marriage

]]> By: ikechi igochi nwofor http://blog.erikajurney.com/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45844 ikechi igochi nwofor Sat, 07 Nov 2009 18:37:23 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/07/01/i-hate-my-mother-in-law/#comment-45844 my mother hates my wife.she manipulated me sending her and my 2months old son away.my marriage is less than a year old.my wife and i are from different ethnic group.i love my wife but my mother has a very stronghold on me which i think is spiritual.what do i do? i love my wife my mother hates my wife.she manipulated me sending her and my 2months old son away.my marriage is less than a year old.my wife and i are from different ethnic group.i love my wife but my mother has a very stronghold on me which i think is spiritual.what do i do? i love my wife

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