Comments on: What it took to get us to where we are now. It exhausts me just reading about it. http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/ My life in Palo Alto, California. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:22:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: maggie http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46650 maggie Wed, 19 Sep 2007 16:45:48 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46650 Damn. That's fascinating and somewhat appalling. (Appalling in that donor sperm hadn't been suggested earlier.) Damn. That’s fascinating and somewhat appalling. (Appalling in that donor sperm hadn’t been suggested earlier.)

]]> By: Marilyn http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46649 Marilyn Wed, 12 Sep 2007 23:19:46 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46649 Everyone has things in their personal lives that they found super difficult to go through and super difficult to reconcile even when things work out in the end. I also went through 7 years of fertility evaluations/tests/procedures, including IVF and ICSI, but now have 3 wonderful kids. For me, the infertility part of the story is not forgotten, but rather never thought of! What does revisit my thoughts was my apparent inability to give birth without having nearly every known complication. Sometimes I meet women who just, you know, drop a 9 lb baby without 60 hours of labor and crowbars and I just feel a twinge of jealousy. I know its silly. It doesn't matter if we got our kids via a roll in the hay or from someplace half a world away, and it doesn't matter if they came out of our bodies or not, and surely it doesn't matter if we were "good" at childbirth. It only matters if we are good at being moms! Everyone has things in their personal lives that they found super difficult to go through and super difficult to reconcile even when things work out in the end. I also went through 7 years of fertility evaluations/tests/procedures, including IVF and ICSI, but now have 3 wonderful kids. For me, the infertility part of the story is not forgotten, but rather never thought of! What does revisit my thoughts was my apparent inability to give birth without having nearly every known complication. Sometimes I meet women who just, you know, drop a 9 lb baby without 60 hours of labor and crowbars and I just feel a twinge of jealousy. I know its silly. It doesn’t matter if we got our kids via a roll in the hay or from someplace half a world away, and it doesn’t matter if they came out of our bodies or not, and surely it doesn’t matter if we were “good” at childbirth. It only matters if we are good at being moms!

]]> By: D&J's Mommy http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46648 D&J's Mommy Wed, 12 Sep 2007 01:53:16 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46648 I hear ya on this one. Two years later and I still can't write about my infertility- at least not in any way that is satisfying. What I did was start donating a portion of my sales to RESOLVE:The National Infertility Association. You can't ever explain to any one what it really feels like to go through IF- but I read your post and I just know. Congrats on your family! I hear ya on this one. Two years later and I still can’t write about my infertility- at least not in any way that is satisfying. What I did was start donating a portion of my sales to RESOLVE:The National Infertility Association. You can’t ever explain to any one what it really feels like to go through IF- but I read your post and I just know.

Congrats on your family!

]]> By: Parent Product Reviews » Blog Archive » “Before You Were Born” helps you tell the story of your child’s genetic origin http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46647 Parent Product Reviews » Blog Archive » “Before You Were Born” helps you tell the story of your child’s genetic origin Fri, 07 Sep 2007 23:53:30 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46647 [...] On my personal blog I recently wrote about the precise fertility treatments which lead to our two biological kids — the details of which I had never shared online before. In fact, we hadn’t even told our kids until very recently. [...] [...] On my personal blog I recently wrote about the precise fertility treatments which lead to our two biological kids — the details of which I had never shared online before. In fact, we hadn’t even told our kids until very recently. [...]

]]> By: Alex Elliot http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46646 Alex Elliot Thu, 06 Sep 2007 03:15:53 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46646 Your family sounds like one great family. My MIL had "fertility problems". It turns out after 11 years of tests and seeing every doctor imaginable, they realized that the problem was with my FIL. Your family sounds like one great family. My MIL had “fertility problems”. It turns out after 11 years of tests and seeing every doctor imaginable, they realized that the problem was with my FIL.

]]> By: Nicole/wksocmom http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46645 Nicole/wksocmom Wed, 05 Sep 2007 23:38:06 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46645 Oh I just jumped over to you article about the books, very cool. My sister used donor sperm but even her husbands family (which is pretty small) doesn't know. I'm going to look into the IVF one. Oh I just jumped over to you article about the books, very cool. My sister used donor sperm but even her husbands family (which is pretty small) doesn’t know. I’m going to look into the IVF one.

]]> By: PunditMom http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46644 PunditMom Tue, 04 Sep 2007 16:21:46 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46644 Hmmm. Why IS it that the doctors don't recommend donor sperm they way they do with donoro eggs? No one EVER mentioned it (of course, we didn't think of it either). But, I know that adopting PundirGirl was the right thing for us -- there's no doubt in my mind (even on the 'she drives me crazy days!) that she was the daughter I was meant to have. Hmmm. Why IS it that the doctors don’t recommend donor sperm they way they do with donoro eggs? No one EVER mentioned it (of course, we didn’t think of it either). But, I know that adopting PundirGirl was the right thing for us — there’s no doubt in my mind (even on the ‘she drives me crazy days!) that she was the daughter I was meant to have.

]]> By: Marilyn http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46643 Marilyn Tue, 04 Sep 2007 05:06:23 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46643 Oh but it does have an ending! Three healthy, interesting, beautiful boys lucky to have Mrs Plain and Mr Plain as Mommy and Daddy! (FYI to the readers: I'm "Mrs Plain's" sister-in-law.) Having been down a similar road, I understand the need to reflect on it now and then. Infertility treatments are frequently heartbreaking, and constantly emotionally and physically demanding. Still, as the saying goes, "Alls well that ends well!" Oh but it does have an ending! Three healthy, interesting, beautiful boys lucky to have Mrs Plain and Mr Plain as Mommy and Daddy! (FYI to the readers: I’m “Mrs Plain’s” sister-in-law.)

Having been down a similar road, I understand the need to reflect on it now and then. Infertility treatments are frequently heartbreaking, and constantly emotionally and physically demanding. Still, as the saying goes, “Alls well that ends well!”

]]> By: crunchycarpets http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46642 crunchycarpets Tue, 04 Sep 2007 02:51:37 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46642 wow.... and here we seem to just THINK about it and BLAM..we would have like 16 kids if we made any effort. My hats of to you... wow….

and here we seem to just THINK about it and BLAM..we would have like 16 kids if we made any effort.

My hats of to you…

]]> By: Daisy http://blog.erikajurney.com/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46641 Daisy Tue, 04 Sep 2007 02:23:51 +0000 http://blog.erikajurney.com/2007/08/31/what-it-took-to-get-us-to-where-we-are-now-it-exhausts-me-just-reading-about-it/#comment-46641 It seems that the end of this post is a "to be continued..." It seems that the end of this post is a “to be continued…”

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